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Having had two brain tumours I was reluctant to even click this thread but now that I have thought I'd give my insight especially as my charity work has also given me knowledge of others.

The first thing terminally ill although an obvious good description is better called living with a life threatening illness it doesn't come across as sharp.

How do families and loved ones cope ? Each has there own way but from those I've seen the best way seems to be make the most of the time you have left and when they go remember those good times.

Believe it or not kids are the best. There are some incredible little people about. Those I've been lucky enough to meet who sadly are no longer with us nearly always asked Mummy and Daddy not to be sad even giving them hugs when the Parents are unhappy to make them feel better.

My experience has shown me that we are lucky being here and should make the best of it the best way we can.

My 'kick' is helping others, not particularly viewed here as a good thing but its what I enjoy doing.

I would always say if there is something you want to do and as long as it doesn't hurt others then go for it.

Coping with sudden death is I'd imagine a lot harder but I would put the principals I learned from the families in place. Be sad but not for to long and try and remember and enjoy the good times shared.

A slightly downbeat, morbid question: traditional forum-killer material! !wink! But I know what you're saying.

We cannot anticipate the unexpected, hence there's nothing to discuss until something drastic happens- which, touch wood (*touches cock* !laugh!), never happens at all.

I think your question, my friend, basically boils down to the old adage which holds so true in life: you just don't know what's round the corner.

We will have seen the above applied in our own lives, and that of many others. It restores one's faith in human nature when we try to cope, or rally round for a friend or loved one.

Make hay while the sun shines.