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On the subject of nasty posts, can i ask a genuine question as to what is acceptable and what is not.
Is calling someone fat or ugly not accepted. Or have we got to use words such as obese and plump.
I must admit i did not see the certain post that caused offence, so i dont know how nasty it was.
I must also add that some those who replied to the troll post could be called slightly hypocritical. As in the past they have not been so liberal with their comments.
Downright nasty i agree is not to be accepted. But the freedom to say as it is, or how you see it must surely not be taken away.

Calling someone fat or ugly - a difficult line needs to be drawn here I think. Firstly I think it depends where you say it. In a review of a film it may be acceptable, depending on the audience being aimed at and the purpose of the review, how much space you have, the 'house style' etc. In the forum it is usually not necessary to say it at all. Many statements that you disagree with can be allowed to pass without comment, especially where they relate to a person's tastes and preferences. If someone expresses admiration for a model or a film series or a type of porn or whether or not models shave their pubic hair and you do not share their opinion, or even find her/them/it a complete turn off, it is usually unnecessary to say so. Sometimes you might say 'I'm afraid she/the/it do(es) nothing for me. I prefer ? because ?'

The posts referred to below went far beyond criticising someone's looks.

In general some people posting here seem to forget that a twinkle in the eye or a tongue in cheek do not travel through cyber space. They also sometimes express their genuine opinions intemperately and thoughtlessly in a way likely to cause offence. On the other hand people also over-react at times and fail to make allowances for this. People say things from the safety of their keyboards which they would think several times before saying if they were having a conversation in a pub. Thus the seven-stone weakling can behave like the bar-room bully and get away with it. Hence there seem to be more trolls than bar-room bullies.

As I've said before, preferences expressed in abusive terms will be deleted. We also try to anticipate and make pre-emptive deletions, as certain subjects are likely to provoke flames and certain trolls are sometimes quite subtle in introducing a topic, staying just this side of abusive, in the hope that things will escalate.

Marcus Allen sums it up best below - behave like a gentleman. Even if a perfect record in this respect is unattainable, you can at least try.