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Right. My ex (we're still best mates) is seeing this bloke. He's a good guy; I like him. But last night she told me that he'd revealed that he has herpes type 2 (genital), which is why he'd held off the sex. Told you he was a decent chap.

Anyway, my ex wants to stay with him but how can they have a sex life if she's constantly in fear of infection? She seems to think it's no biggie using condoms, and isn't even going to talk to her GP about the issues, but having done some decent research this morning it seems to me that herpes is one of the most contagious STDs out there. Apparently it's largely asymptomatic and there can be contagious viral shedding (when the virus is on the skin but undetectable to the eye) which can infect you just from skin-to-skin contact. Plus, I'm still not clear whether just kissing him can transfer the virus given he has type 2?

At the end of the day, it's her decision, and nowt to do with me, but I'd like to put my own mind at ease. Anyone have any experience of this, or offer some factual insights? I've done the standard web trawl.

Delighted to say that I get this every now and then.It is a virus and there is no cure.It raises its self in the form of itching around the cock sometimes on the foreskin sometimes on the head.Attacks usually last about a week.Whilst 'live' it can be passed.Treatment is anti virals which can hasten recovery.These are only available from a doc.It goes after a week anyway without pills.The itching is not painful and I usually get one or two tiny sores.I get a flare up once or twice a year.I've had it for ten years.My missis gets it too.She gave it to me.Personally I dont find it a big deal.Washing your cock regularly can soothe it .If my missis is to be believed its more irritating to women.It is passed in blood so I would not recommend oral sex while having an episode.Non sexual mouth kissing is fine.

Genital mutation of the coldsores you get on the lips. Use the same measures ie: no sex whilst there's an outbreak.

It's easily caught and you can get it off someone who hasn't even got it by receiving oral sex from a partner with a coldsore.

Just like coldsores, even if she caught the virus it can be kept at bay with a healthy diet with lots of vitamin c. It only rears it's head when your rundown/stressed etc.

Cheers both. I've decided to keep my big nose out, even though she's a great mate. It's her life. I'll pass on your comments though.

Hello Chatterji.

I have a really good mate that has suffered with herpes for nearly 20 yrs now and never infected anyone. He also uses some alternative measures which really helps him if and when he has an attack. If you mail me I will pass it on and get him to mail you his regime if that helps.

Cheers Marino, really appreciate that.

As she's a girl I'm not sure how relevant it would be to her, but I'll ask her and she might drop you a mail, if that's alright. She might be more inclined to listen to reports from the field rather than to me getting all brotherly and medical on her arse.

She's a great girl and he's a good bloke; I just want her to look out for herself really. Known her since we were kids.