Saying sorry

[Lizard]

It,s like a bet 50-50, pick the phone up, say your sorry for whatever you did, and leave it with her, she will either accept it or she wont, but if your sincere and man enough to make the call, I,m betting she will.
Good luck anyway Jay..

[The Last Word]

Caractacus has a point - give it time. Perhaps she just wants to forget about it and move on, so maybe you should too. She's already said she forgives you, so respect her word at least. Also, making such a concious show of how sorry you are you could risk bringing whatever the original cause was back to the fore.

[steve56]

lizard ive tried that with sue she just says o alright i dunno in mid sentence it annoys me really .

[Pervert]

I went thro the same thing with a female friend from work.

We had a really good platonic relationship, then after last Xmas I got the complete cold shoulder, she wouldnt tell me what(or if) I had done wrong.

I was really upset over it, but thought life goes on (even if it is painful).

6 weeks ago we went to the pub, got pissed, talked about it for about 5 minutes, and then we both decided to put it behind us and start afresh,

So far, everything is OK.

I would go with Caractacus advice, give her time and space, because otherwise you might just drive her further away from you.

[JackHorny]

Sent Jay an email saying and explaining the reasoning behind that very same sentiment - sadly having email problems so am unsure as to whether he recieved it....

But to summarise, my experience in such matters is such that if you try TOO hard (and heavens knows, when you feel so strongly for a girl you do TRY), you will stifle them, suffocate them and ultimately you DO DRIVE THEM AWAY....

And like I said to Jay in my email - its easy for me to say it... I wish I could do it but I am like him, I want it to be made right as of yesterday... you really do have to let them call the shots....


I lost my one and possibly only chance at true love, family life, babies etc thorugh being too impatient and too desperate to make good my wrongs... That was 2 or 3 years ago or more.... she never came back, she never will come back and any future relationship would never be able to measure up.

TIME and SPACE - you've done all you can do by making a sincere apology - you fucked up, accept it and wait and see if she's prepared to MAKE IT RIGHT... you CANNNOT make it right, only she can make it right by showng you in no uncertain terms that she has forgiven and forgotten - you cannot make her do that.