OT : Hello from a Lurker

[ging]

I have been visiting here for about a year..just reading posts and not taking part....but to be honest this is probably the nicest and most well balanced fourm I have ever come across....Hello everyone and nice to meet you all...on a slightly on topic matter...my partner does not know my viewing habits....she always says about watching porn as an appetiser...how to I exlpain to her...'Which of my collection of DVD's do you want to watch ?

[steve56]

just ask her casually about what to watch you never know she might surprise you!

[Alex]

I always find a little warming up - foreplay etc - followed by 'how about we watch an interesting movie?' does the trick. Even if she doesn't really get off watching porn, she will probably expect er, huge benefits if she watches it with you!

[steve56]

well put alex!

[Soulstew]

If she doesn't know you watch porn don't surprise her with the admission of a collection first off. She will be pretty annoyed as you will have been keeping a secret from her anyway. I would suggest picking a film you think is suitable (ie not too hard) for HER first time. Next move is bite the bullet and ask her. If she is asking for it anyway it sounds like its just a question your not comfortable with asking (typical rejection stuff). Just get on and ask her, she won't say no. Try putting it something like "Mate at work/from the pub etc has lent me this vid do you want to watch it?". After this event you can start introducing her over time and gently to things more to your tastes by guaging her reaction to the different scenes.

Bite the bullet and ask. Remember if you don't ask you don't get.

Been through the same thing and am now happily watching porn with the wife on a regular basis.