sex with the same person

[hammer4life]

can get ridiculously boring cant it?

Single at the moment but last relationship lasted a good 18 months and i never strayed once despite the endless urges to.

Good looking girl possibly bordering great looking and eventually came out of her shell in the bedroom, but after a year or so with the same partner it just became really tedious and i found myself pining for new experiences with other women.

This question is particularly aimed at the married members on here, is it at all possible to retain an active sex life after a certain amount of time or does it just naturally stagnate into a routine rather than an experience??

[Jonone]

If you continue to dig the person you continue to dig the sex.

People use sex for different things. Some people use it to validate their sense of self so it could be that some people think that in order to feel (and be seen) as successful as a man then they need multiple partners.

It depends what need(s) sex fulfils for you.

[Sarah Kelly]

Good point.... if you LOVE the person your with (Still) it never "stagnates" as you want to please them and get enormous satisfaction from that...And if you ever feel its geting samey,maybe they are thinking the same so why not break up the routine every now and again....If the rellationship is of value,and you cherish it dearly,its always worth nurturing ..surely?...There are plenty of relationships hit the skids/broke up/fell into a rut etc etc ( and for the woman.a top one will always be feeling taken for granted!) where people think"if only i could turn the clock back-id do this, or that, or whatever" differently...... Well its TOO LATE...... if you love some one ,nurture and cherish what you have... and if you Dont love them, YOU IS WIth THE WRONG PERSON ANYWAY........ "....

[hammer4life]

you suggesting perhaps swinging could be the answer in certain situations?

Honestly dont think i could bare to watch seeing someone i love being intimate with another person!

Im pretty sure its possible to love the person yet still become bored sexually

[countb]

Surely thats why we stray?The boredom aspect of the marriage situation etc.
I have been married a fair while but the last few years have been like skiing..all downhill.
Thats why ive chosen to spend my funds(mainly from the sale of my businesses) on women.My kids will get the proceeds of my house when I pop my clogs so they are catered for.
I will not boast about the number of girls I see regularly as it will only lead to the fucking liar comments but I see 2 regulars each week,one in Stockport and one in Manchester.If the opportunity comes along to book a well known girl.
Hope this is not too boring but its all true and despite owning 2 porn shops til last year,I can honestly say there were very few girls I met through this scene.
One thing you get from me is the truth cause theres no reason to fucking lie.
End of epic lol

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[hammer4life]

count

sounds perfectly reasonable

In an ideal world i think the majority of hard working men would like to mix and match as they please but whether it be straight forward payment or even the process of spending money on a night out trying to pull in this day and age its simply not feasible through financial constraints.

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[countb]

No ive never booked Delta!You make some good points.
Ive seen LDM and a lot of local girls off Realpunting like Astrid of Crewe,Busty Melinda of Bury,Sandy and Raven of Manchester,Naomi of Preston(shes adorable and so is her mum who joins you in the room!)
Last time I saw Melinda,she said she felt sorry for the Realpunting actor as he had to keep stopping and starting for 3 hours.I fucking didnt lol

[Sarah Kelly]

in certain situations,for certain people, i have no doubt thats the answer... But i think you need address every individual case on its merits-not everyone could swing,successfully, as you quite rightly point out....... i suspect many MANY guys would like a 3sum with 2 girl scenario-then cry off if the other half suggested a 2 guy evening! !wink!

[Sarah Kelly]

you old romantic you!wink!... you,me,and jane whitehoue eh? Now theres an idea !party!....

[countb]

Sarah,as im posting so much about you at the mo,heres my take(my email has been returned again by fuckin Tiscali)
I love FFM,I love snowballing etc but ive only tried MMF a few times and they were disastrious.Gave me an uncomfortable feeling,particularly the one involving a black guy whose cock stopped the shower door closing...and that was after he had performed.I felt somewhat inadequate after that...never again.*

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